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Month: February 2016

Improving Your Relationships by Loving Yourself

Life is a series of relationships. Success in life is dependent on forming and maintaining successful relationships. Some of life’s relationships are Relationship to ourselves – how we feel about ourselves - are we confident, self-assured and worthwhile or are we weak, defective in some way and a waste of space. Relationship to self, impacts all other relationships. Personal r...
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14 Ways to Improve Communication in Your Relationship

 Communication either makes or breaks most relationships. Most people believe that they are communicating with their partners when in fact they are only talking about everyday surface topics. Conversation in a relationship can indeed include this, but also needs to encompass the deeper levels involving our emotions. Because opening up on an emotional level makes us vulnerable and carries a level o...
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Repairing Broken Trust

  Breaking the trust in a relationship cannot be fixed by confining the problem to the past and moving on. The emotional damage done does not simply disappear because you said sorry. Rather the untrustworthy party must show they clearly understand what their partner has felt and experienced. Without this step what follows will not be undertaken with the seriousness that it deserves. The perso...
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Moving Beyond Failure

"The secret lies in how we handle today, not yesterday or tomorrow. Today… that special block of time holding the key that locks out yesterday's nightmares and unlocks tomorrow's dreams." Charles Swindoll - Clergyman and Author One of the most uncomfortable feelings that we can face in life is the feeling of powerlessness. There is plenty of things happening in the world at present that ca...
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How Reality Can Reduce Emotional Pain

Each of us have different life experiences. As we experience different things we explain why they happen to us by determining what experience means.  People react differently to the same situation because they have a different understanding of what that situation means to them.  Meanings colour our view of the world. So what's real? To answer that question I want to introduce you to two differe...
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How to Deal With Bad Situations

There’s an old saying that says “when life gives you lemons make lemonade”. It sounds positive and makes you feel like you have some control over what happen to you. Yet when life does get us lemons, through things not going the way we wanted them to, the first reaction is usually to complain about how hard life is. The old saying tells us that it is possible to take what is happening and make...
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Failure is not the End

Failure is disappointing. Repeated failure is soul destroying. Your understanding of failure can be a source of growth and success or a source of depression. When one member of a relationship feels they are a failure, this can often lead to frustration, anger and an emotional or physical withdrawal from the relationship. When we say we have failed, what we mean is we have not achieved a go...
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How do you know when you are ready for change?

In my practice clients come to me because they want to change, but the thing that I do observe is that some change and some do not. Some people get frustrated with the process and stop coming. Others power ahead, get breakthroughs and change their life. So the real question is what makes it work for one, but not the other? 1. Both have a desire to change 2. Both say they really want chang...
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