|Life is a series of relationships. Success in life is dependent on forming and maintaining successful relationships.
Some of life’s relationships are
The very basic relationship that affects all others is our relationship to ourselves. If you do not like yourself this will show in your behaviour and will affect how you connect with others. When we do not love ourselves or in fact hate ourselves we become very negative and let’s face it who wants to hang around with negative people.
Our understanding of who we are is formed in childhood. We understand who we are by observing how our family interacts with us. If they are loving and supportive and affirm that we are good and valuable, then we tend to see ourselves as such. On the other hand, if you are constantly put down, neglected, told you are stupid and that you will never amount to anything we tend to see ourselves as that and who could love somebody like that.
These example represent either end of the spectrum and most people fall somewhere in between.
If you want to improve your relationship with yourself, here are 5 ways to do it.
1. Affirm yourself
You constantly seeking compliments is a turnoff for most people. Make a list of what you have accomplished and give yourself some credit. Recognise the good that you have done. Let it sink in and you will be less reliant on other to validate you as a person.
2. Body Language
This is an active choice on your part and if practised habitually can lead to self-respect and confidence increasing for you.
3. Exercise, eat healthy and practice good self-care
Self-care includes any intentional actions you take to care for your physical, mental and emotional health. It encompasses such things as having good hygiene, dressing well, having time off, dealing appropriately with stress and in general looking after yourself. Practicing this makes you more desirable to be around.
4. Create something.
5. Be self-aware.
It is wise to know both your strengths and weaknesses and play to your strengths.
If your uniqueness seems to make you a little weird, don’t feel bad about it. Embrace the weirdness. A lot of great people where considered to be a little weird by others.
Loving yourself involves accepting who you are and what you want to be. When you’re in the place where you love yourself you ready to start giving everyone else more reasons than ever to love you too.
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