Christmas and New Year seems like a demanding time of year. There are presents to buy, food to organise, the house to prepare for visitors or travel to be with family and so on. There are so many things that you must focus on. With this, all comes the feeling of overwhelm, exhaustion and the inevitable change in your mood.
The key thing to understand at these times is that we are the most powerful when we focus on the least number of things simultaneously. We are most powerful and most productive when we focus on a single task. When we focus on multiple things in a short space of time, we spread our power and risk the feeling of overwhelm and powerlessness.
At various times in our lives, the necessity to focus on multiple things is unavoidable. However, to reduce the overwhelm we need to make sure that we don’t lose focus on ourselves. It is so easy at this time of year to focus on the needs of others, wanting to please everyone else and to for everyone else to have a good time. Unfortunately, when the last piece of energy drains out of us because we haven’t focused on ourselves, we eventually run dry, and that is when the real overwhelm and tiredness sets it.
If you want to survive Christmas and New Year, remember that while focusing on others may be necessary and even beneficial, take the time to also focus on yourself and what you need.
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