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Willpower is not Enough – How to Succeed

            Often failure in life is blamed on a lack of willpower. There is, however, increasing evidence that what you "see” happening is what is holding you back. Albert Einstein once said “Imagination is more important than knowledge.” How often have you heard people say “I can’t imagine……… happening “ Most people struggle to imagine...
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Self-Care – Is it Selfish?

The Importance of Self-Care If you can’t take care of yourself first, then you will have nothing left to give to others or to put it another way, if you don’t have it, you can’t give it. Self-Care, Cars and Fuel We go to the petrol station and put petrol in our car then it goes fine until the tank runs empty. When it does, our car has got nothing left to give and stops. To make sure that ...
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If You Deserve Something Why Don’t You Have It?

It is common to hear people complain that they work so hard, try everything that they know but can never seem to get ahead. Asked if they deserve to succeed, they say of course they do. But if that is true why don’t they have what they want? We can be convinced logically that we deserve good things in our life but on a deeper level we don’t believe it. The result is us not experiencing the very...
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The Answer to this Question Determines What Happens Next

As human beings, we are biologically programmed to be in a relationship, but we are also programmed for self-protection. In many relationships, a tug-of-war exists between these two programs with self-protection often winning out. Because we know that not all relationships are beneficial for us, we approach any relationship with one question in mind. This is a question that we are not conscious...
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When Late Becomes Too Late

April was a sad month. Some couples came to see me in the hopes of repairing their relationship, but they have left things to go to the point that extensive damage has occurred in their relationship. You cannot leave arguments, resentment and bitterness to build in a relationship without it poisoning that relationship. A word readily used to describe this is a toxic relationship. No matter what th...
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If You are Feeling Powerless Here is What You Need to Know

Time consists of three stages * The past * The present * The future The past is a collection of life experiences. They are unchangeable, set in stone. We can, however, focus on them, lament the fact that they happened and think about how life could be different if those things hadn't been part of our past. The future currently does not exist. Certainly, we can have a look at what's ...
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How to Turn around your Descent into Depression

In Alice in Wonderland, we saw Alice going down the rabbit hole, and down and down she went. However, unlike Alice in Wonderland, there is no wondrous land at the bottom of the Rabbit Hole of depression. In contrast, the further you go down the harder it is to get back out and the worst everything looks and becomes. Life experiences and our reaction to them cause us to evaluate the world bas...
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Does My Child Need to See a Counsellor?

The lives of children can be quite stressful – there’s the expectations of the school environment, study and exams, friendships and family relationships, and as the child gets older personal development, peer support and self-image. Then there’s the possibility of significant life events –an illness or a death in the family, parents separating and relationship breakups. Some of these events most p...
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How to Command Your Brain to Find Opportunities

Your brain is a very very complex organism. Theory says that we only use 10% of it and considering the amount of trouble we can get into with only 10% perhaps that's a good thing. Our brain has the capability of being aware of everything which is going on around us. But the problem is that there's no way we could process that amount of information without going crazy. Fortunately, our brain has a ...
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Why It Takes More Than Being Ready to Succeed

You are so ready to succeed, so ready to be who you are, and so ready to stop struggling. Next year can't come soon enough. You are so ready for it to be your year. But if you are so ready for it to happen why does it never happen? Is there a mysterious force working against you or is it something that you are doing? The answer lies in two words ready and willing. From dictionary.com - Ready...
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