The family unit is the “school” where we learn who we are and how relationships work. Human beings have the longest caregiver period of all mammals. Our children generally live under our care to the age of 17.
The optimal situation sees
An emotional attachment is formed to an adult who is sensitive and responsive to their needs during the period from birth to 2 years of age
The person they form an attachment with is consistent in their caregiving.
After the age of 2, the child begins to use the adult as a secure base from which to explore and develop independence.
The child grows up feeling safe, secure and confident.
As much as parents want the best for their child, the ideal situation is challenging to achieve. There are so many demands on our time and the percentage of stay at home mums is decreasing out of financial necessity.
Parents often feel that they should know how to deal with the demands of raising well-adjusted children and regard seeking assistance in this area a sign of weakness.
In the fast-paced, highly demanding world that we now live in, the demands of parenting and family compete with the demands of work and the need to earn an income. Additionally, the structure of the family has changed from the traditional dad, mum and children and now includes but is not limited to single-parent families, same-sex families and blended families. Each family group can experience challenges specific to their family structure.
Vanessa Heal specialises in assisting parents and family members make sense of the demands placed on them and teaches simple strategies to improve parenting and family relationships.
Patterns learned as a child in the family environment will repeat themself when the child, as an adult, enters into their own relationships. By improving family and parenting relationships now you are setting your children up for improved relationships in the future.
“Vanessa spent time with my two children aged 9 & 11. Both of them felt relaxed and at ease talking with Vanessa about some family issues. They left the sessions with clarity and confidence. Thank you Vanessa, I would highly recommend your service to everyone.”
“Vanessa was able to identify with my 7 year old & get to the root of some problems, that we as a family did not know existed. I could not recommend her services highly enough. As parents sometimes we need some extra help or strategies – and we have found that Vanessa has provided us with those. Thank you again!”