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Relationship Repair

Relationship Pain Does Not Mean it is Over

It Does Mean it is Time To Repair, Design and Enhance Your Relationship

Are You Feeling the Pain of

Broken trust

Constant arguments

Loss of love and affection

Mental, Emotional or physical abuse

Not being heard or respected

Being taken for granted

Not getting the attention that you deserve

Always being reminded of your past

If So We Have the Solution

Relationships are as complex as the individuals that make up the relationship. The reason your relationship is currently in trouble will be the result of several factors ranging from childhood experiences through to the ways in which you react to the pressures of your current relationship. It is hard to identify and rectify these yourself.

Understanding your drives and needs is the first step in empowering yourself. Understanding others drives and needs is the foundation of healthy relationships. I believe that a desire to understand yourself and others and a willingness to implement necessary changes, make relationship repair possible.

Our Counsellors

Specialise in strategies that are practical and easy to implement within a busy lifestyle.

Conduct a thorough analysis of your relationship and quickly pinpoint the drivers behind your relationship problems.

Help you to design your relationship your way and then use our expertise to show you how to rapidly achieve it.

Show you how to make subtle changes that will bring you the results that you want in your relationship

Relationships can be successfully repaired if both parties must want to repair the relationship. Both sides must want to undertake whatever change is necessary to make this relationship work. Sounds easy but it’s not. It will be hard work, but the results make it all worthwhile.

The Truth about the Common Reasons People Use to Avoid Relationship Counselling – Click to Expand

I don’t want to be told I am to blame
I never apportion blame. To do so is counterproductive. Whatever has happened are no more than facts that will help us find a solution.

I don’t want to be told what to do
Relationship counselling is not about forcing you to do things. Certainly, suggestions will be made but ultimately you are the one who decides what you want to do.

I should be able to work this out myself
That would be true if we were experts at everything. But we are not. If you are sick you go to a doctor and if your car is broken you go to a mechanic. As a counsellor, I am skilled in assisting you to find answers to your current dilemma.

I can just talk to my friends
Friends are happy to give you some support and advice but to repair a relationship they are likely to be out of their depth. Friends are not trained to deal with the complexities of people’s lives. They are unlikely to want to take on the responsibility for working with you to rebuild your relationship.

My partner doesn’t want to come
That can present some difficulties but does not make the situation unworkable. There are things that an individual can do to influence a relationship. It is worth coming even if your partner won’t.

I cannot afford it
Can you afford to lose your relationship along with the emotional and financial fallout involved? There is a cost either way. Consider the huge investment that you have made into your relationship to this point. Are you prepared to throw that away without seeing if repair is possible? My fees are more than reasonable for the results that I deliver. If, however, you genuinely cannot afford to pay them, I am open to discussing your situation and finding an affordable solution for you.

So how did your relationship get to this point? – Click to Expand

Relationship issues arise due to a basic principle
You are biologically wired to protect yourself from threat and pain. You are also biologically wired to connect emotionally with others. If the person that you are in a relationship with represents on some level a threat to you, then you want to connect but cannot. This situation leads to the uncomfortable position of wanting something but at the same time pushing it away. These actions are then in turn interpreted by your partner as you don’t love them.

Understanding why you see your partner as a threat is a fundamental step if your relationship is to be repaired successfully.

Why do you feel stuck?

Relationships develop through various stages. The first and most recognised stage is the initial honeymoon period. In the honeymoon period, the focus is on the things that you have in common giving rise to a feeling that “we are one”.

After a period of being together, you start to notice that your partner is different from you in many ways. Noticing differences is a normal part of relationship development but brings with it fears that you are growing apart, that you have little in common. Resentment sets in particularly if one partner starts to embrace their differences and the other partner is still holding on to the “we are one stage”.

Many couples get stuck at this stage which generated feelings of being left behind and rejected or feeling held back and smothered. Understanding how you can be different but be in a relationship together is one of the fundamental issues that need to be addressed for the relationship to develop to its full potential.

Noticing differences does not mean the end of the relationship but instead means that the relationship is growing and if properly supported through this time will lead to an enhanced experience for you both.

Individual issues become relationship issues
The relationship starts with us. The first person that we must relate to is ourselves. How good our relationship with ourselves is, flows into our other relationships. That is why so many things such as depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, and low self-worth can tear a relationship apart over time. Often a poor relationship with ourselves is seen in one partner expecting the other to make them happy. Happiness is something that starts with you. You need to make yourself happy first.

The origin of the problem
Our concept of what it means to be in a relationship and how relationships work is founded on the type of relationship we experienced with our caregiver when we were a child. For example, unpredictable reactions from parents to our needs tend to leave us mistrusting close relationships. Neglect from our parents tends to cause us to rely heavily on ourselves and not trust others.

Relationship Counselling is not about

Assigning blame
Finding fault
Judging people for their action
Telling you what to do

Relationship Counselling is about

Understanding your world through your eyes
Understanding where you are now
Understanding where you want to be
Finding solutions that work for you as individuals in a relationship

Discover the issues driving your current relationship problems in a “Show Me the Truth” analysis of your relationship. In a 30-minute in-depth session with our relationship specialist, you will gain empowering insights into your relationship plus receive 2 simple but powerful strategies you can use immediately in your relationship.

Tracey Janke
Relationship Specialist
Dip. Couns. M.A.C.A. Cert. Life Coach
Cert. NLP Practitioner
Grad. Couples Institute
Cert. Erickson Hypnotist
Vanessa Heal
Relationship and Children’s Specialist
Diploma of Counselling

“We were stuck in a rut with our long term relationship, going around and around the same issues, unable to break the cycle of miscommunication and misunderstanding. Tracey helped us to gain a new perspective and a new way of communicating which validated both of our needs, helping us to negotiate and move forward.I would highly recommend this service.”

“Vanessa is an amazing counsellor! She saved my marriage!!! She was perceptive, understanding, knowledgeable, diplomatic, empathetic, kind and a great listener. She taught my husband and I how to communicate again after years of growing apart. Vanessa could decipher our arguments and get to the root of the disagreement. She challenged our perceptions of a healthy relationship and rebuilt our marriage from the ground up. I will be forever grateful for her services. Highly recommend.”

“Tracey truly knows her stuff. She has been so helpful in getting our relationship back on track. Her realistic approach and digging down to the drivers behind the behaviors has been mind blowing. I knew from the start she was the right person to help and highly recommend her.”

“Vanessa has helped a lot of people I’ve worked with within the community through troublesome times in their lives, she’s been an inspiration to myself and others through her gift of being able to lighten the load of past and present issue’s people may have.. Very discreet and professional.. Thank you for the work you do for myself and others, keep up the excellent work Vanessa”

“Tracey has been such an amazing help. She has been so helpful in dealing with so many issues and is really easy to open up to ESPECIALLY on a personal level which has been very hard to find. Would highly recommend her to everyone”

“Vanessa has been working with both my daughters and I believe she has made a big difference to them both individually. They are more confident, believe in themselves plus she is a support person outside of family to confide in and help with any difficult situations that may arise. Thank you Vanessa.”

“Tracey has helped me in both work and home life. I came to Tracey for addiction, however, Tracey said let’s get to the cause. Turns out a lot of my issues came from my childhood. In such a short time Tracey has saved my life and marriage. I look at Tracey as a life coach. She brings a lot to the table such as life skills and her eagerness to genuinely help people. She is a straight shooter who does not read from a textbook or sugar coat situations. I would highly recommend Startpoint Counselling to anyone who has problems or just wants to work on self-development. Tracey rocks, I’m blessed to have met her.”

“Vanessa was able to identify with my 7 year old & get to the root of some problems, that we as a family did not know existed. I could not recommend her services highly enough. As parents sometimes we need some extra help or strategies – and we have found that Vanessa has provided us with those. Thank you again!”

“Tracey has helped me immensely with both grief counselling and building life skills. She is easy to talk to, understanding and is very good at helping you see a situation in a different light. She has helped me through numerous issues and I have gained confidence through what she’s taught me. I would highly recommend her. Very knowledgable in many areas.”

“Vanessa spent time with my two children aged 9 & 11. Both of them felt relaxed and at ease talking with Vanessa about some family issues. They left the sessions with clarity and confidence. Thank you Vanessa, I would highly recommend your service to everyone.”

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