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How to Strengthen Trust in Your Relationship

Two types of trust can exist in a relationship Firstly, there is conditional trust which says I trust you only when I’m having a good experience. If I’m not having a good experience, then I don’t feel that you have my back and I don’t feel safe.  The result is I don’t trust you. Conditional trust is found in the early stages of a relationship. Relationships based on conditional trust are easily b...
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How Normal Can Create a Relationship Problem

When I'm having a conversation with somebody, there is one significant thing that gets in the way if I'm not careful. Because I experience life looking from the inside out, I am aware of everything that I think, everything that I feel and everything that I see. I am a product of my environment which consists of the family I grew up in, everything that's happened to me in life, and what sense I ...
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Expectations – the Power to Build or Destroy a Relationship

Nobody does anything in this life without starting with expectations about how it should work. From the moment that we get up in the morning until we go to bed, we are constantly having expectations about our day. We expect that we can get to work without having an accident, we have expectations about traffic conditions, expectations about how much work we can get done in the day and so on. Des...
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Dealing with Christmas and New Year Overwhelm

Christmas and New Year seems like a demanding time of year. There are presents to buy, food to organise, the house to prepare for visitors or travel to be with family and so on. There are so many things that you must focus on. With this, all comes the feeling of overwhelm, exhaustion and the inevitable change in your mood. The key thing to understand at these times is that we are the most power...
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Resolving the Impact of the Past on Your Relationship

In a relationship facing difficulties, it is common that each partner believes that the other partner is largely responsible for the issues that they have. This is often heard in phrases like “if only you could” or “if only they didn’t” then things would be better. The idea that one partner is heavily contributing to the relationship problems is generally based on the belief that we are normal and...
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I Love My Partner, But I Am Not in Love with Them

I love my partner, but I am not in love with them, is a common statement that I hear during my work with couples. What exactly do we mean when we say this? The first thing we need to understand is that the word love has multiple meanings and the way we determine what love means is from the context in which it is used. For example, I can use the word love three times in a s...
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Do This First If You Want a More Fulfilling Relationship

It is very difficult to arrive at a destination if you don't know where you are going. If I gave you a box and asked you to deliver it to a town out west, you wouldn't simply accept that. You would want to know more details including the name of the town, the street, the street number and to whom you were delivering. However, when it comes to the things that we want in our relationships, we tend ...
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Coping With Loneliness

Loneliness affects everyone whether it is a loss of a relationship, a partner who is away from home due to work or other commitments or the desire for a relationship that you have not experienced yet. We experience loneliness because we are social beings who are biologically programmed to be in a relationship. When the relationship aspect is missing, we feel lonely. Loneliness can be debilitati...
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